Say these 3 simple words to create deep understanding for your highly sensitive child.
Many highly sensitive children carry the weight of the world on their sensitive shoulders. They feel immense responsible for their surroundings and world issues effect them deeply. Their body is even able to show that in its own personal non verbal language, which has a noticeable effect on their posture and adult thinking pattern.
Knowing that life effects them so deeply in many different ways can be devastating to see and that feeling can torn you apart as a parent, teacher or family member. You want your highly sensitive child to live life more effortlessly and being able to focus on things that will make them thrive in life.
On the other hand you are also incredibly proud that they have that specific sensitive character trait and you know that their thinking pattern and ‘being’ is how it optimally should be. How beautiful would it be if everyone could have this sensitive innate trait, right?!
Well, nature has its own way of dividing character traits in the world for a reason.
Unfortunately you also know that life in general will challenge them big time. You might worry about their overall future well being in different ways; will your child be able to speak up for themselves, will your child be overruled at school or work, can your child maintain a higher energy level and therefore stay focused on their own path in life instead of walking somebody else’s path?
Know that you can already help the highly sensitive child by telling them that you ‘see’ them. Keep the conversation short, don’t use too many words. “I see you”.
They are keen detectives and will feel immediately if you are telling this from your heart and mean it. Sometimes you can’t do or change much about the situation for them, but what is more beautiful than knowing that you are being seen for who you truly are. That can strengthen their whole day and gives them a feeling of authentic support.
True words create ‘connection’ and that is highly adored and appreciated by new neurological pathways.
Besides the 3 words, you could also say the following: “I see that you have a talent for noticing things before others do” or “I see that you are struggling with this and I appreciate that you are still making an effort to support your classmate”. First of all, by reading this you will probably already have a certain sensitive child in mind. I will not be surprised if you might also be thinking of your own sensitive inner child right now.
There will be days where you may be looking at them when they are sleeping in their bed and you know that you have to wake them up for a possible rough day in school.
Rest assured that these 3 simple words are the same words that you would’ve liked to hear in your childhood.
“I see you”.
