Sensitive men can have the feeling that they don’t belong.
Wholehearted sensitive men can have the feeling that they don’t belong
anywhere.
Not with the male stereotype men and not with the women who think they are too sensitive. Not with family who were raised in a different way. And all in between. Maybe that’s why you might get the feeling that you get
pigeonholed.
That could also be a reason that some sensitive men rather stay
alone, not that they want to necessarily…sometimes it just feels less pressured
and overwhelming.
The world can already be overstimulated enough
nowadays. That is so exhausting and confusing at times, especially when (social) media says that “all men hurt women, men can’t clean up after themselves, men babysit their children (it’s their child, come on…have respect) can’t cook or clean…or worse…don’t want to help”. On top of that: all men are aggressive, selfish and those awful posts that state: 10 signs a man wants something else from you.
People, we are hurting our men with those statements.
Men feel as deeply as women, and expressing those emotions is sometimes not appreciated. And when they finally feel free to express their emotions…some people have the tendency to use your words in a later argument… against you.
Would you still open up?
Not all men are created the same. Not to say that HSP men are better than
others, they may be just different, sometimes for them a curse and sometimes
a blessing.
I can imagine that all mentioned above is so confusing for a man. The result is
that highly sensitive men built a wall around themselves. Just like with highly sensitive women, when things get tough, they ‘redraw and create their own inner island’…unreachable to the outside world. Withdrawing in an incredibly rich creative inner world where disappointment, rejection and injustice is felt less. A feeling of hopelessness combined with not being listened to.
Also for men it is truly hard to describe how it truly feels to be looked over,
disregarded or even ignored when you truly have something important,
impactful and mind opening to speak about.
As a result of it some men have the feeling that when you numb yourself life
gets more comfortable.
Maybe you wonder if the stigma will ever change but opening up this topic is
already a first step.
As a sensitive man it is challenging to find your tribe. Its uplifting to know that
there are others out there with the same blueprint and you can be connected
all over the globe.
We are all responsible,
Susanne de Munck Mortier
PS: You are very welcome when you want to connect with other highly
sensitive men virtually. Join our monthly mastermind with the Maverick Men
community. Email Susanne at internationalhspcenter@gmail.com for more information.
