When parents are stuck in deciding something and don’t ask for help.
The last months were probably interesting for you as a family, especially for sensitive parents.
Having more people present in your house during the day and maybe not always having a form of me- time or me- space can be extremely challenging.
Not all parents felt this way, for some it was the ‘ideal’ situation for their family.
Some of the parents that I spoke to shared the following, “ We ate less healthy, experienced even more overthinking, higher stress, less qualitative good sleep and sometimes less movement. Others had an opposite experience.
All of the above might have influenced your energy level and emotional reactions towards your environment.
Of course, it doesn’t help when you finally have the feeling that you have mastered the home-schooling lay out and then you have to decide on returning your child to school or not in these uncertain times.
That mix of thoughts, beliefs, values, past experiences can create a whole circus in your mind.
When you do bring your child to school you might feel guilty, because you don’t know the consequences of that action yet.
When you don’t bring your child to school you might not know how to communicate that with the school and the pedagogical organisations. You might also wonder how your ‘surroundings’ will react to your decision.
Especially when you finally see your sensitive child flourish at home or when you hear that otherwise your child might ‘fall behind’ and you start to begin feeling guilty.
The parents that I spoke to were in constant doubt what to decide and wanted guidance in staying true to themselves.
But they first wanted to figure out what it is that they truly stand for and take a firm decision, so the emotional overwhelm becomes less and they can maintain a higher energy level and be present for their family.
You see, sometimes your child is in a challenging situation in school that you don’t know of. Your child might not always share this with you or their teacher, because they simply don’t know that it is possible to ask for help.
Sometimes not that different from their adult parents…when was the last time you decided to ask for help?
If you want your child to mirror you in a positive way, decide to ask for help when you feel stuck and drained.
After all, asking for help is a form of self care and isn’t that the greatest example to set for your child?
Dear loving parents, you did an amazing job managing this new situation, just don’t be too hard on yourselves.
If you feel overwhelmed in what to do or where to turn to, schedule your free 30 minute chat with Susanne here and let’s get you unstuck and move forward in supporting your sensitive child.
