“Your child should become more resilient”.

How often did you already get this unsolicited advice from other family
members or teachers about this?

“Your child should become more resilient”.

Although you know that the specific ‘advice’ isn’t aligned to your gut feeling and personal principals…once in a while you do start to doubt if your child should indeed become more resilient.

I do fully understand that the family member or teacher is concerned and cares for your sensitive child.

‘Resiliency’ is not the long term way to go, it’s the easiest way out… and when
listening to the ‘resiliency advice’ we teach the sensitive children that they
aren’t already ENOUGH in the sensitive way they are born.

Seriously?

Weren’t you already incredibly resilient when you had to stand up for your
sensitivity in the past, when somebody said you are ‘shy’?

When you felt like an alien in a ‘knowledge world’ instead of a ‘wisdom world’?

When you had to calm your feelings and emotions, because the outer world
might not approve and judge you?

When you felt sorry for your bullied peers and stood up for them?

When you got disappointed, but the next day woke up with hope?

When you had to do presentations or speak up while scared to death?

When you wanted to raise your hand and express YOUR opinion, but your heart pounded so hard that you lowered your hand instead?

As you can see/read, we sensitives don’t need to become more resilient, so you don’t have to waist your time on that perspective.

Highly sensitives are experts in mental resiliency, more than most.

So, don’t crush the nervous system of a highly sensitive child…by telling them to ‘toughen up’.

Instead teach children from an early age….that ‘being true to yourself’ is ‘the most courageous thing you can do in life’.

Unfortunately for the child and parent, staying true to yourself is the hardest
path, it always is when you choose YOURSELF…but also the most rewarding
fulfilling and content saving in the long run.

More important is to SURRENDER to what shows, observe it and decide to take control from your own set of values.